Working With a Career Coach – What Every Job Seeker Must Know

In today’s tough economy, every job seeker needs assistance in landing his next employment opportunity in the most efficient and expedient means possible. The services of a career coach are targeted for individuals who are unemployed or in a dead-end job or are attempting to move up the ladder or re-enter the work force.


Career coaching as we know it today, developed its roots from corporate coaching of the 1980’s. At that time, large corporations saw their top performers experience professional growth and increased performance through the assignment of a life coach. This process benefited key executives across all levels of the organization. Since this time, Career Coaching has evolved to a service that is available to job seekers everywhere.

Working With a Career Coach

Any candidate who is contemplating a business relationship with a Career Coach should first be aware of how the process works. It is important to connect with a Coach who will best meet the job seekers needs. Initially, expect to have either a face-to-face or telephone consultation, to determine both short and long term employment goals. This is a critical appointment that provides the Career Coach with the background information necessary to assist their client. The Career Coach provides information about the candidate’s chosen career path, salary expectations, current trends in the industry, and provides advice on prospective target employers who hire for the candidate’s chosen position.

Services Provided

A Career Coach’s role is to train the job seeker to out-perform their competition in the job market. They routinely provide services such as career exploration, interview success coaching, setting up a strategic career plan, salary negotiations assistance, as well as advice in the initial career planning process. When a job seeker requires assistance in revising their resume, or additional career services, the Career Coach has connections in the industry they readily recommend. The average cost to work with a coach is between $75.00-$250.00 per hour.


While the cost of hiring a Career Coach may seem like an unnecessary expense when unemployed or re-entering the workforce, the benefits of the relationship can be the difference between landing a position, or remaining on the unemployment line. The coach spends time preparing the candidate for interviews and meetings with prospective employers, and literally guides the job seeker toward success in the hiring process. Individuals who work with a Career Coach are far more likely to get in the door of their target employer, and out-perform their peers in the job market.

What to Look For

Before shopping for a Career Coach, it is critical to know how to identify a professional who delivers results. Look at the coach’s work experience, ask about their professional affiliations, determine their reputation in the industry, and ask for references before moving forward with any one coach. Always know the Career Coach’s fees in advance, and ask about any guarantees offered. Above all, speak with the coach before making a final decision, to see if this is a person you will enjoy working with.

Managing Emotions During Career Change and Job Search, Part Two

Half the battle in successfully managing your emotions during a job search or career change process is in recognizing and naming what you’re feeling. Most of us could barely brainstorm a dozen or so emotions, yet many, many more exist. As you begin naming what you’re feeling, this list of emotions, each arrayed within a cluster of similar but different emotions, will help you expand your awareness of the depth and breadth of all that you feel in the course of any given day: Happy:

  • buoyant
  • festive
  • playful
  • brisk
  • generous
  • pleased
  • calm
  • glad
  • relaxed
  • carefree
  • grateful
  • restful
  • cheerful
  • hilarious
  • satisfied
  • comfortable
  • inspired
  • serene
  • complacent
  • jolly
  • surprised
  • contented
  • joyous
  • sparkling
  • ecstatic
  • jubilant
  • spirited
  • elated
  • lighthearted
  • thrilled
  • enthusiastic
  • merry
  • vivacious
  • excited
  • optimistic
  • exhilarated
  • peaceful


  • anxious
  • earnest
  • keen
  • ardent
  • enthusiastic
  • proud
  • avid
  • excited
  • zealous
  • desirous
  • intent


  • defeated
  • hopeless
  • skeptical
  • dubious
  • indecisive
  • suspicious
  • evasive
  • perplexed
  • unbelieving
  • distrustful
  • pessimistic
  • uncertain
  • helpless
  • powerless
  • wavering
  • hesitant
  • questioning


  • alive
  • paralyzed
  • tense
  • breathless
  • repulsed
  • tired
  • empty
  • sluggish
  • uptight
  • feisty
  • stretched
  • weak
  • hollow
  • strong
  • weary
  • immobilized
  • sweaty
  • nauseated
  • taut


  • ashamed
  • dull
  • quiet
  • blah
  • embarrassed
  • somber
  • choked up
  • gloomy
  • sorrowful
  • compassionate
  • heavy
  • hearted
  • sulky
  • concerned
  • ill
  • at ease
  • sullen
  • disappointed
  • in the dumps
  • sympathetic
  • discontented
  • low
  • shameful
  • discouraged
  • melancholy
  • unhappy
  • dismal
  • moody
  • useless
  • dreadful
  • mournful
  • worthless
  • dreary
  • out of sorts


  • aching
  • heartbroken
  • pathetic
  • afflicted
  • injured
  • suffering
  • cold
  • isolated
  • tortured
  • crushed
  • lonely
  • worried
  • despair
  • offended
  • distressed
  • pained



  • loving
  • tender
  • appealing
  • passionate
  • warm
  • seductive
  • close
  • sexy
  • Afraid:


  • fidgety
  • pressured
  • anxious
  • frightened
  • shaky
  • appalled
  • gutless
  • shocked
  • apprehensive
  • hesitant
  • scared
  • awed
  • horrified
  • suspicious
  • cautious
  • hysterical
  • terrified
  • cowardly
  • impatient
  • threatened
  • dependent
  • insecure
  • timid
  • dismayed
  • nervous
  • tragic
  • doubtful
  • panicky
  • worried
  • fearful
  • petrified
  • Angry:

    • annoyed
    • frustrated
    • offended
    • awkward
    • fuming
    • provoked
    • belligerent
    • furious
    • resentful
    • bewildered
    • grumpy
    • stubborn
    • bitter
    • indignant
    • sulky
    • boiling
    • infuriated
    • sullen
    • confused
    • inflamed
    • wrathful
    • cross
    • irate
    • enraged
    • irritated


    • bold
    • determined
    • loyal
    • brave
    • encouraged
    • proud
    • confident
    • hardy
    • reassured
    • courageous
    • impulsive
    • secure
    • daring
    • independent



  • engrossed
  • intrigued
  • concerned
  • excited
  • curious
  • fascinated
  • Miscellaneous:


  • envious
  • mixed-up
  • cruel
  • humble
  • preoccupied
  • distant
  • jealous
  • Print this list and try reviewing one or more times daily to expand your awareness of what you’re feeling and build your emotional vocabulary. The more you know about your own feelings, the more equipped you will be to deal with them safely and appropriately throughout your career.

    Managing Emotions During Career Change and Job Search, Part One

    How can you manage your emotions during your career change or job search? To answer this practical and wise question, let’s first define what emotions are. Emotions, also commonly referred to as feelings, are energy released in your body in response to perceived events, that is, to data received via your five senses.

    To build your skill in managing your emotions during your current or next career transition:

    1.) Practice Naming Your Emotions. There’s great power in simply naming your emotions as you experience them. Check in with yourself several times a day and name your emotions in a journal or log. Learn to identify the nuances of difference between emotions that are similar. Choose carefully how you name what you’re feeling: word choice creates reality!

    2.) Allow Yourself to Feel What You Feel. Resisting emotions keeps you stuck in them. Why not do something radical like feeling them? Let the emotion wash over you and it will pass through you infinitely more gently. Feeling your feelings is always easier than resisting them, because emotions grow in proportion to our resistance to them.

    3.) Express What You Feel. Unexpressed emotions are like poison trapped in the body. You don’t really want to do that to yourself, do you? Let them out! The key here is safety and appropriateness. Find ways to express your emotions that are safe and mature for you and those around you.

    4.) Act on Your Emotions. Again, safety and appropriateness are key. Emotions are messengers from your internal reality prompting you to take some action. Discover what each emotion wants you to do, then do it, safely. Don’t delay, or your emotions will act on you.

    5.) Journal. Journal thoughts, emotions, dreams and dialogues. Write letters you won’t send. Mine your innards to find the truth within.

    6.) Exercise. Physical activity is a great stress reducer and safe way to channel your emotions into action. Whether it’s a walk or a swim, a bike ride or run, or aerobics or muscle building, it will help you constructively channel your stress into a healthy mind and body. Start slow; be consistent!

    7.) Talk to a Safe Someone. Call a friend or family member; find a counselor; try a coach or spiritual director; meet with a priest, pastor or rabbi … but call someone! You don’t have to bear your burdens alone unless you choose to … and why would you choose to?

    8.) Use Art to Express Yourself. Paint your panic. Draw your dreams. Write poetry to express the inexpressible within you. Both verbal and nonverbal art forms can help you release what should not be trapped within you.

    9.) Use Music to Match Your Mood. You can use music to match your mood and thereby express it, or you can use music to alter your mood when it’s critical to do so. So, if you’re down and need to pump it up, try some rousing rock or Latin music. If you’re hyper and need to calm down and center, try baroque, New Age or soft jazz selections. Music can be a particularly powerful way to help yourself relax into sleep or get revved up for your day.

    10.) Pray or Meditate Through Your Feelings. Both prayer and meditation are powerful ways to feel and express your emotions. Practice one or the other or both daily.